No one gets married expecting to have to file for divorce. Most couples picture spending the rest of their lives together. Unfortunately, the American Psychological Association (APA) has found that 20 percent of all first marriages end in divorce within five years, and nearly 48 percent of all marriages fail before the 20-year mark.
Divorce is an emotionally turbulent and trying experience. It doesn’t have to be contentious, however. There are a number of things you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse can do to help things proceed smoothly, and make the process as emotionally healthy as possible.
First, and perhaps most importantly, avoid thinking of the divorce as a battle. The APA suggests contacting a mediator or working with a qualified attorney to help keep the situation as calm and civil as possible between you and your ex-spouse. Psychological studies have shown that following this simple advice can be greatly beneficial for your post-divorce relationship, the impact on your children, and your own emotional satisfaction.
Make a checklist of important details to remember any questions you think of as well as points to discuss with your attorney during moments when you’re feeling calm. When emotions are running high, it can be difficult to remember all of the important details about your situation that you want to discuss. Making a list can help you keep track of those important details and facts, as well as the answers you receive from your legal counsel.
If you feel it may be helpful, create a guide to help you communicate with your soon-to-be ex-spouse during any face-to-face meetings that may be necessary. This can help you stay calm, taking the emotion out of an emotionally trying situation. If things are becoming too heated, try working out details via emails whenever possible.
Having a healthy divorce is possible, if you are committed to a smooth transition. Working with a qualified attorney can help. Contact one of the experienced family law attorneys at our law firm today; we can help you achieve the quick and smooth divorce you’re hoping for.